Searching for a Leader (Everywhere including inside You!)

At various discussions about condition of our country I find people concluding the discussion through any of the following remarks

Someone like Khomeini is needed here!
Only a bloody revolution is the solution!
“V” lack leaders who can deliver!
Its all because of the leaders that “V” are ………up!

Do leaders reflect the nation or are the nations a reflection of their leaders?

If we consider leaders like Mahathir Muhammad and Quaid E Azam than “V” realize that single person’s charisma can influence millions but on the other hand if “V” consider nations like China, India, than their growth in the last four decades cant be associated to any single leader who changed them altogether but rather these nations kept on discovering people in different walks of life which wanted to deliver excellence and had the ability to aspire others to adopt the same approach.

Is there anything common in the Nations which grow and develop quickly?

Here are few possible explanations

They keep religion out of their economic activities (whereas “V” justify our laziness under notions like It wasn’t God’s will! or “V” should not spend much effort on worldly matters as these would be over as soon as the judgment day arises so “V” should rather focus on prayers and meditation!)

They give more priority to conduct and discipline (the two elements are also present in our religion but practically “V” have shifted our focus on religious appearance/getup and prayers rather then exploring what God wants us to discover through efforts and belief.

People of Developed nations are nationalists ( “V” are not sure if “V” are a nation)

Why are “V” discussing this topic?

Pakistan is going through a critical time and many people still don’t believe that disintegration of Pakistan is of any interest for the Americans. They feel that Gwader port,Unexplored natural resources and Nuclear assets are of no concern for the troika of America ,India and Israel but I feel that the time is getting closer when Americans would want to operate in the region directly rather than through manipulation of the Governments. I also feel that in the next stage of American planning, present government would be removed within this year even if it survived through July2010 so whenever it all starts happening than ”V” should have an idea that what kind of people can guide us to survive.

Maula Hood system of management and justice !

Unless God does it! You cant kill him!( Maulay noo maula na maray tay maula nai mar sakda!)Ever since I heard this dialogue , I found it very filmy and unreal along with the character of Maula Jutt who was not supposed to lose under any circumstances and I looked down upon people who envied such a character who was impossible to exist in real life but the way things are going and the extent to which our collective frustration has grown I am desperate now to find a Maula Jutt in our society.

Maula Jutt is supposed to be someone who doesn’t play by the rules and is strong enough to beat the Bad guys and most important of all he doesn’t die. When I analyze popularity of characters like Maula jutt and Robin Hood than one thing is common in them that they were about societies in which system was too strong to let the weak people live in peace and these characters could muscle the system away to help the poor and weaker of the society.

Lets see what are the factors which create space for people like Maula Jutt and Robin Hood.

1: Members of the society are too lazy and psychologically too weak to struggle themselves so they clap for whoever is practically bringing solutions to their problems.

2: In the society there are few who have lost a lot themselves and now they have nothing else to lose so they struggle against the system for revenge and recognition. The ones who survive and succeed are remembered as heroes and the rest as nobodies so people struggle and try to succeed.

3: When dominant portion of the society is corrupt than struggling through the system is like trying to float by a boat of affected wood so success is more likely to come off the system.

No matter how we explain a society’s acceptance towards people who deliver results without following the rules but practically when individuals dominate the institutions than there is greater probability that such individuals would eventually start misusing the power rather than take corrective measures to rebuild the society and this is likely to happen because too much concentration of power in an entity usually results in a spill rather than a trickling down sharing of power to gain collective strength.

Waiting for a perfect man!

While working for the cellular and Education industries I met many women who were educated, good looking and had reasonable family backgrounds but were still single. On occasions I found them depressed for aging quickly and due to not being approached by a suitable person to get married with.

After having direct conversations and observations I realized that most of them were single not because they were never approached by anyone but due to the fact that they were not ready to marry someone who was not fulfilling the criteria of a “perfect man”. The way I understood it, this is the check list which an urban girl (especially the one who has done her graduation or Masters from a private educational institution)follows while saying yes to a man. Importance of the mentioned variables is according to the assigned weights.

Financial stability (70%)
Salary
Job/Position

Vehicle which he drives (10%)

Education (10%)

Looks (7%)
Height
Complexion

Family obligations (3%)
Groom’s brother and sisters still unmarried


In the above mentioned variables assigned weights might vary from person to person but most of the urban women appear to give primary importance to financial stability. Same trend seems to be popular in males also where men practically define a good family as the one which can raise or match status of the groom and can offer financial support and assistance.

With reference to the above mentioned observations please answer to the following:

Should it be considered “greedy” to look for a person who is financially sound or is it a “realistic approach” to life considering rising cost of living or is it our laziness that we want to join the achievers but do not want to share someone’s struggle?

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Are “V” Losers by choice?

A colleague of mine gave an example to indicate the fact and the more I thought about it the more I realized that as a nation we are so good at creating issues and making a mess out of nothing that we loose our focus from more significant challenges. Such issues root from our inherent habits and no ruler can be blamed for them.

“V” are not organized :
Consider our graveyards for instance, by the exception of very few graveyards most of them do not have an index system so if you have to find a grave than you also have to find someone from the family of the departed to take you along. After prayers in the mosques (especially after Jumma and Eid prayers) we all rush to leave at once but we do not try to form a Queue or avoid walking on other people’s slippers. Same attitude is reflected when there is no one to control the traffic than we do not try to control our selves!

“V” are idle worshipers:
“V” love to create and maintain relationships with those who are having power (“V” leave them once their authority is over).”V” believe from the deepest core of our hearts that reference and bribery are the master keys to any problem so “V” are more than willing to compromise on our principals and moral values.

“V” are bad investors:
Major part of our earnings goes to worldly pursuits like spending on social occasions such as marriage and death ceremonies which consume a significant part of our savings and borrowed amounts but have absolutely no return.

“V” have impoverish thinking:

When “V” struggle than our focus is only on physiological ,Security or social needs rather than on self esteem or self actualization needs so “V” don’t try to utilize our potential and seek challenges.

Please participate by answering to the following.

1:Is not being organized the reason why we are not organized politically or is it due to the fact that unlike other nations our messiah leader has yet not appeared who would change everything after organizing and leading a revolution.

2: Do “V” practically believe in God’s existence?

3: “V” have to spend on social occasions like marriage and death anniversaries because every society has its own ways of socialization like in west there are bars and clubs and if don’t spend to celebrate or commemorate such occasions than it would further reduce social get-togethers which have come to a minimum due to terrorism and social atmosphere. Do u agree?

4: A society in which most of the members are struggling to make their ends meet. Can it produce such scientists, writers, producers who can make a difference?