I attended a funeral for one of my relatives today.Many people die every day. Some while being young (at an age when they are supposed to survive and cherish life) and some die after going through the normal cycle of childhood to youth and then old age (their death is easier to swallow).Today just before the funeral I thought that it can occur to me as well. Being 36 with good health would make my Death News shocking.Many people would say Oh! No! Really! Inam has died? But he was so young, probably in his 30s (someone from my family and friends would say, He was just 36!).
It was interesting imagining me being dead so I started visualizing more about how everyone around me would react.
The room where body would be kept: It will be Crowded, crammed with people. Every now and then someone would be saying typical sentences which I would like to be true but I know people deliver these sentences at many funeral.
“Bus G bara he naik bacha tha,Itna noor toe mein nay aaj tak kisi mourday kay chahray per nahin daikha,Baji hamara Inam toe pehlay say bakhsha hua hai(He was a very piest boy, I have never seen such glow at any dead person’s face,God has already forgiven him).
"Zara iss ki B.V Ka haal daikhu ,bechari ka row row kay bura haal hai,Behnain bhi bari mushkil say apnay aap ko sambhal rahin hain".(Look at his wife,She is crying her heart out,Sisters are also struggling to bear the pain).
Bhai sahib ! Ab ghar ka kharcha kaun uthai ga?(who would run the kitchen now?)
After the funeral ,relatives would be telling my family “Itna bara janaza to aaj tak nahin daikha!(we have never seen such a large funeral).
First three days after death would be painful for all the people known to me but eventually it will be a matter of deleting an extra phone number from phone books and by the time first month would pass ,Things would be very different for “other people” .At the chaaleeswan (ceremony of 40th day from death) women would be noticing each other’s clothing. Men might be discussing standard of the food served. World would be very much a settled place (however it would never be the same for my family! They will have to learn to bear the pain .Every family member like wife, children, sisters would eventually get on with life however I cant imagine that how my mother would survive the loss).
So much for “Others” and Family but what about me!!!???What would I be doing after I die?
Would it turn out to be true that after we die Angels come and question, our conduct in the world ? How and what will I answer? Would there be light or darkness? Or would it be nothing? Would my past existence turn out to be an accident or a lost opportunity (to survive and succeed according to what was taught/indicated to me) because I failed to read the signs?
If death does not really mean an end rather a progression from one world to another, Just change of physical state than I really do not feel prepared for such a change ,do others? Me and most of the people design their routines just for survival. Eating, Networking, Sleeping, Preserving and similar activities are all focused activities for survival but are we focusing in the right direction?
I am not a very religious person but I feel religion does guide about it. Even if we do not believe in it we still need to think that what if religion is actually alarming correctly ?We should at least give it a thought because being humans there has to be some purpose in our life other than survival. It cant be a coincidence that so many living and non-living things have been created/have come into existence just to serve mankind.
Should we be setting goals for a time when Time would not matter and for a world which is difficult to imagine. We do not plan anything but how our families would survive financially or how we can maintain our health in old age but again all of this is related to our present state, What about after it? If there is something after it?
Please share your views regarding death like what is it in your opinion?
