While working for the cellular and Education industries I met many women who were educated, good looking and had reasonable family backgrounds but were still single. On occasions I found them depressed for aging quickly and due to not being approached by a suitable person to get married with.
After having direct conversations and observations I realized that most of them were single not because they were never approached by anyone but due to the fact that they were not ready to marry someone who was not fulfilling the criteria of a “perfect man”. The way I understood it, this is the check list which an urban girl (especially the one who has done her graduation or Masters from a private educational institution)follows while saying yes to a man. Importance of the mentioned variables is according to the assigned weights.
Financial stability (70%)
Salary
Job/Position
Vehicle which he drives (10%)
Education (10%)
Looks (7%)
Height
Complexion
Family obligations (3%)
Groom’s brother and sisters still unmarried
In the above mentioned variables assigned weights might vary from person to person but most of the urban women appear to give primary importance to financial stability. Same trend seems to be popular in males also where men practically define a good family as the one which can raise or match status of the groom and can offer financial support and assistance.
With reference to the above mentioned observations please answer to the following:
Should it be considered “greedy” to look for a person who is financially sound or is it a “realistic approach” to life considering rising cost of living or is it our laziness that we want to join the achievers but do not want to share someone’s struggle?
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You are right, this is whats happening around and no one else but we ourselves are responsible for all this.
ReplyDeleteEvery body has a right to dream and choose especially his/her life partner. I personally belive that marriage should not be based on material facts such as wealth. However, liking and disliking for a particular person along with their character and family should be the basic decision making blocks.
all the best
Faisal
my mom told me that her parents and all the elders before used this rule for marriage that when they used to marry their girl they always looked for a familey that matched their status or was above their status but not too above but when marrying their sond they would look for a girl below their status.....and this was not too become superior but so that the girl would find it easier to adjust as she would be more comfortable. but imaginge if a girl comes from a very rich family into a middle class family then there will be fights on ac and thing like that...she,ll face adjustment problems.
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